JUST SAY NOTHING
A little over four months left of dealing with the administrators of the middle school. Their constant harassment causing a tremendous amount of stress. A disruption to the peacefulness we have in our home.
The latest disruption was the mini-ream of papers which my son brought home today after school. The results of the Functional Behavior Assessment.
Though I will not take the time to read over every single word, I know many things were grossly exaggerated to fit into the definition that the district needs in order to keep my son in a program that is not meant for him. My response to their assessment was as follows:
‘Sixty-four pages monitoring my son's every word and every action for the past three years?! This is absolutely insane!
As the custodial parent, I have let the school district know time and time again that I do NOT consent to further testing or evaluations. Yet, you continue to harass my son and our peace at home.
The information you have about my personal life is inaccurate as is the recent assessment from my son's father. The information he provided is irrelevant as Sage does not and has not lived with his father and his siblings for over two years. His father has issues of his own and is also dealing with a mentally unstable wife who has severe anger issues which she takes out on everyone around her. This is one of the main reasons that Sage decided to live with me and not in the continued toxicity to which Sage's sisters are still exposed.
The pages you sent me make claims that Sage classifies as Autistic and that his actions impede his learning. What impedes his learning is you. And all of the administrators constantly microanalysing him. The teachers who constantly pick on him whilst ignoring worse behaviour from students in his class. What causes him a great deal of stress is to be continuously ridiculed by students as he is forced to walk the SPED hallway and those students seeing that he is being watched by administrators.
What causes me to lose any faith in anyone in power is people like you and all of the staff of FPMS. What sickens me is knowing that my son is denied the basic right of being able to go to the bathroom. Today, when he asked his ELA teacher to go to the bathroom, he almost pissed his pants. She refused to let him go, yet she let at least five other people go. This is abuse.
I have many more instances where teachers lose their shit and take it out on the class. But the school does nothing about it. Such as the math teacher who has frequent mental breakdowns, shows her jealousness of the substitute teacher, and questions the kids about his method of learning in her absence. Asking the students ‘Why do I bother posting the assignments in Google Classroom if none of you guys watch it! I take a lot of time…’ Teachers these days seem not to teach but rather prefer their students to figure it out themselves. Then people like you wonder why students hate school.
It pains me to have to tell my son that Miranda Rights apply to him. He’s a child. Not a criminal. That anything he says ‘can and will be used against’ him. It's a shame that I have to tell my son to ‘just say nothing’. To ‘zip it’ and to put his head down. To be like the Emo kids. If you believe my son exhibits depression, you have only yourself to blame.
So, once again, we will not be attending the ARD meeting next week. If you do attempt to exert your control over my son and tell him he needs to read a script to the administrators saying that he is Autistic and needs help, there will be consequences to those actions.’
It’s astounding how oppressive and abusive the situation has become. How it has escalated to the point where it disrupts our day-to-day lives. How mentally draining it has become to where I need to tell my son to be quiet and to not express his thoughts, lest he gets punished for his individuality.
There will always be people who want to tear you down. To make your life hell. Sometimes we need to just say nothing and move on with our lives despite the obstacles standing in our way.
